Why people ghost : the psychology of avoidance

Getting ghosted feels personal. It feels like rejection. But here's what's really happening: you're not being rejected. You're being avoided.

There's a difference. Rejection is about you. Avoidance is about them.

The Avoidance Psychology

People ghost because they can't handle the discomfort of saying no. They can't handle the awkwardness of a difficult conversation. They can't handle the guilt of disappointing someone.

So they disappear. It's easier to be rude than to be honest. It's easier to leave someone wondering than to have an uncomfortable conversation.

What This Means for You

If someone ghosts you, it's not about your worth. It's about their emotional maturity. It's about their ability to handle difficult conversations.

Don't chase. Don't explain. Don't try to make them comfortable with their own behavior. Let them sit with their discomfort. That's how they'll grow.

And you? You'll be fine. Because you know how to have difficult conversations. You know how to be honest. You know how to handle discomfort.